After reading yesterday's post I feel I didn't really get into the point about adjusting expectations. Since Marley was born, I've been pushing myself to achieve a long list of things that are important to me:
- Take care of Marley
- Cultivate my relationship with hubby
- Get back into shape post pregnancy— eat well and exercise
- Two hours a day minimum on my work
- Maintaining and tidy and organised home
- Finish the house project
- Quiet spiritual time
- Time to just live, be and have fun
Just this week, something clicked for me. It was hard enough juggling all these plates before I was a new Mum, so how can I expect myself to achieve all this now?
Some great people in my life gently helped me to reach this conclusion for myself (hubby, Mum, Dad, Mother-in-law). I didn't want to hear it and I reached breaking point before I could admit I had a problem. Once there, I was able to start addressing the problem.
The solution is to adjust my expectations, to be kinder to myself and accept change. For a season some things are going to have to take a back seat. The challenge is working out what can slip when everything is so important to me. I'm still working on that. And I keep telling myself, "I'm not giving up, giving in or admitting defeat".
p.s. This post took a wee bit longer than my 10 minute deadline. But it's Saturday night, Marley is in bed (oh yeah) and I have a little more time. Now hubby and I are going to attack the crackers and cheese :-)